Balancing Mental Health and Relationships: Finding Support During Tough Times

I am writing this article with the intention of sharing my experience and offering advice to others who may be navigating similar challenges. Recently, I've been facing a difficult situation in my personal life and career. My husband and I have been together for almost 13 years, and despite his generally stoic nature, I have noticed a shift in his ability to provide the emotional support I need during my current struggles.

My Personal Struggles

Our shoe used to be on the other foot. For the first 6-7 years of our relationship, I supported my partner as he dealt with career challenges in his industry. I understood his feelings of helplessness and provided both emotional and financial support. However, now I'm facing a career challenge of my own as a massage therapist. At the age of 62, I've seen a decline in my regular clientele due to the influx of younger, well-trained massage therapists. This has been incredibly painful and has added to my depression.

Seeking Help Through Self-Care

Instead of the controversial advice found elsewhere, I would like to emphasize the importance of self-care. Engaging in self-care activities can be a powerful tool in managing depression. For instance, I find that engaging in solitary activities that bring me joy and relaxation, such as masturbation or other forms of self-pleasure, can provide a natural release of endorphins that act as a temporary natural antidepressant. These activities are not only cathartic but also reinforce a sense of agency and control over one’s well-being.

Building a Support Network

Effective self-care is just one part of the equation. It is equally important to build a strong support network. Sharing my feelings with friends, family, or even engaging in peer support groups can help lighten the emotional burden. Connecting with others who are going through similar experiences can provide validation and a sense of community. Emotional support is crucial during challenging times.

Professional Help and Communication

In addition to self-care and building a support network, seeking professional help is essential. A therapist or counselor can provide the specialized support you need to cope with depression effectively. They can help you explore your feelings and develop strategies to manage them. Communication with your partner is also crucial. If you feel comfortable, express your struggles and the specific ways in which you need support. Sometimes, partners may not realize the depth of your needs.

Setting Boundaries and Exploring New Activities

While it’s important to communicate your needs, setting boundaries is equally crucial. If your partner is not able to provide the support you need, it’s okay to seek support elsewhere. Your well-being is of utmost importance. Additionally, engaging in new activities or interests can help shift your focus and improve your mood. Whether it’s learning a new hobby, joining a class, or pursuing a new career path, these activities can provide a much-needed break from the daily stressors.

Conclusion

It’s important to recognize that seeking help and prioritizing your mental health is a sign of strength, not weakness. You deserve to feel supported and valued. Don’t hesitate to reach out for the help you need. Remember, it’s okay to take steps to improve your mental health, and these steps can make all the difference during challenging times.