Is It Normal to Not Want to Be a Housewife?

Yes, it is completely normal not to want to be a housewife. People have diverse aspirations and values, and many choose to pursue careers, education, or other interests outside of traditional domestic roles. Personal preferences can be influenced by various factors, including individual goals, cultural backgrounds, and life experiences.

The Role of Modern Gadgets in Reducing Domestic Duties

Indeed, who would want to be that ambitionless waste of space when modern gadgets make our lives so much easier? Unless you truly want a family with 5 children or more, modern appliances like dishwashers, advanced vacuums, and even robot-vacuums that can work while you are not at home significantly reduce the time needed for cleaning and preparing food.

For instance, I do my chores on Saturdays, taking only 2-3 hours, which includes doing a week’s worth of grocery shopping. This time frame also includes manually washing a week’s worth of dishes, but let me clarify: I do not intend to do that after coming home from work, especially when I am already tired! Even with a partner and a child, if I ever wanted one, it wouldn’t take much longer. Modern technology has made it much more manageable.

Modern Society and Personal Choices

In this day and age, it is either considered a little off or mostly normal to want to explore other paths. After all, it's your life, and you should go for whatever makes you happy. Having children and being a housewife would drive me mad. I've seen it happen to my mother: too smart and too hyper to be pent up doing menial chores. Eventually, she lost her mental health.

My mother was born in the 60s, a time when women weren't pressured to stay at home. She married a Vietnamese man in the Midwest in the 80s, an unheard-of idea back then. Clearly, she had her own way of doing things. For years, she was miserable due to the lack of human interaction, even when she tried joining the Junior League and other activities. She couldn’t fit into the standard mold.

Personal Experiences and Cultural Influences

My grandma, too, was a stay-at-home mother in her youth for similar reasons. Culture played a significant role in shaping her and my mother’s choices. However, my mother was particularly rebellious, marrying a non-Asian man in an unconventional place. She clearly had her own way of doing things, moving away from societal expectations.

These personal experiences have a deep impact on my views. I have no desire to be a housewife, especially with today’s modern conveniences that simplify domestic tasks. Instead, I am more inclined to pursue a career or engage in other activities that align with my values and aspirations. Your path should reflect what truly makes you happy, not what society expects.