Navigating Life as an INFJ: A Letter to My 16-Year-Old Self

Dear 16-year-old INFJ,

First and foremost, you can just be who you want to be. Don't feel constrained by the expectations of being an INFJ—rare as it may be. Embrace your unique traits and follow your heart. Just do whatever you truly want and live your life.

Embrace Your Inner Conflict

Let's talk about your inner conflict. It's okay; it's a designation that comes with your personality type. Get comfortable with it because it's not going anywhere. You'll need inner resolve to navigate the world with less insult and injury to your person.

Don't Misunderstand Your Uniqueness

Understand that being rare does not make you special. Instead, it makes you harder to understand. Chances are, you'll be misunderstood more often than not. During these moments, be your own best friend and faithful leader. Stand tall and believe in yourself.

Setting Boundaries for Yourself

It's important to remember that you can't save everyone. It's not your responsibility to protect others from the consequences of their actions. Giving advice is great, but it shouldn't come at the expense of your wellbeing. Acknowledge this early on and learn to look after yourself as much as anyone else.

Living in the Moment

INFJs often have a tendency to be goal-oriented and future-focused, sometimes at the expense of the present moment. Don't forget to live in the now. While it's okay to visualize your future, remember to appreciate the here and now. Don't get so caught up in your goals that you forget to enjoy the journey.

Don't Let Social Expectations Map the Path

It's acceptable to feel like an outcast at times. High school is a different society altogether, and you're going to find people who truly understand and love you. Don't feel like you need to put on a facade. Remember, one good friend is better than a thousand fake ones.

Watch Out for Narcissists

INFJs are often narcissist magnets, frequently used and manipulated by these individuals. Your empathy and ability to see things from others' perspectives are what these people exploit. Trust your intuition. A part of you will know when someone is truly bad.

Final Advice: Understand Your Cognitive Functions

Take some time to understand your cognitive functions. It's not as difficult as it sounds, and it will provide you with a deeper understanding of yourself. Typing yourself will enhance your self-awareness and offer you more accurate self-knowledge.

Closing Words

Remember, your daily energy level is crucial. Make sure to give yourself a good charge every day. Live in the present, set clear boundaries, and embrace your unique qualities. The world is yours to navigate, and you are capable!